The Secret Garden (August Meeting)

This month we are talking about our babies bedrooms and their belongings. There are a few questions all with in the same topic and because all of our stories differ some questions may not apply to you. If you would like you can just write about your experience or you can answer the questions individually. Of course you do not have to answer them all they are just simply there for you to share your experience so please just answer what you feel comfortable with.

If you created a bedroom for your baby tell us what it was like.

It is a beautiful spacious room really close to ours, it is on the second floor and when you look out the window, all you can see is trees.

Did you have it ready for them before they were born?

I wish we did have it ready. I feel bad for not having it ready, but in order to do that we had to move a couple of rooms around. The office was supposed to move downstairs and the guest bedroom (Jasper’s room) was moving into the office. We were working on getting all of the baby stuff we were going to need and move the rooms around after he was born. We wanted him to stay close to us for the first few months anyway so it was perfectly fine for us.

If so, how did you cope coming home to it without your baby?

It was pure agony. I was only 25 weeks into the pregnancy when I had Jasper and after having three miscarriages I was afraid to start buying stuff earlier on. When we found out at our 19-week ultrasound that we our baby was a boy I could not help it I started buying some things for him, well mostly clothes. When I finally got the nerve to step into his room; I just laid on the guest bed and cried for hours.

Did you pack it all away?

Just some of the smaller things like bottles, and diapers.

What is your baby's room now?

It is still the guest room that has Jasper’s ashes, all of his clothes, his birth and death certificate, my pregnancy memory box, and hopefully I will have Jasper’s urn very soon.

If you are trying to conceive again, or are pregnant, again how do you feel about setting up another room before your baby is born?

I will always fear setting up a baby’s room before he/she is born. Next time I think it will work out the same way. We will buy all his/her stuff, next time I will not buy stuff until I pass 30 weeks and will set up the room after he/she is born.